When the most open-minded people believed that they had already known and accepted all sexual conditions, something happened.
After a lot of press work, marches and even therapy, homosexual, bisexual and transgender people were accepted. But it seems that not everything was said.
A small group of people slowly began to raise their own flag . And it was the moment when the rest began to wonder what it means to be asexual.
In the beginning, in order not to be provocative or not to be clear on where to place themselves, these people were included in the other conditions .But there came a day when they understood that that was not right. They did not feel represented or identified. It was the key point in which they should begin to accept each other to be able to go out into the world as they truly felt: asexual.
For those who have not yet met anyone with this orientation or those who do not know what is happening to them, today we will see what it means to be asexual. Perhaps, the biggest difference with the rest of the people is the most notorious. While everyone strives to have sex, an asexual person shows no physical interest.
Characteristics of an asexual being
- Being asexual is an orientation . It is not a personal decision regarding sex for other reasons. It must be clearly distinguished from celibacy or sexual abstinence, which are “choices”. A person who does not feel sexual attraction can not change it. On the other hand, those who have decided not to have sex because of their religion or other personal cause have a desire on their skin.
- There is emotional connection. Being asexual does not eliminate feelings or romanticism. In fact, they may be the most romantic couples you have ever met . His lack of interest in sex has nothing to do with his capacity for falling in love. They have the same feelings as the rest of the people and can manifest them in the same way.
- They love without the need of intercourse. Although it is surprising to some, being asexual means having the ability to love without having sex. What many consider to be “the great test of love” for asexuals is a waste of time. A sacrifice that they want to avoid many times.
Be asexual and maintain a relationship
The first thing they should know is that communication is the first rulethat must be met.
Speak with the truth and state the condition from the first day. All people have the right to know what they are exposed to in a relationship.
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Relationship of pairs
If a man or an asexual woman falls in love with another person with the same orientation, there are no major drawbacks.
Surely, they can agree on the type of relationship they will maintain without objection. Romantic dinners, gifts, outings and anything that does not involve physically explicit sex may be likely.
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Relationship with a sexually active person
Here, the situation is really very different.
Being authentic is the only way to be able to move forward so that both are satisfied or satisfied. People do not choose sexual orientation and neither do they fall in love. So, being clear about the conditions is the most worthy thing that can happen.
The first dates allow that ideal connection in which romanticism wins everything . But that minute comes when you have to move to another level like in a video game. Sharing the truth of sensations with the couple is the right thing to do. Together they can, with the love they have, find a common point.
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They can have sex
Asexual people do not feel sexual attraction but are not unable to act .Only they and their lovers can decide how they are going to act.
Some choose open relationships to avoid going through situations they do not want. Others, even give up having sex – even if they are not of interest – to satisfy their partner or have children. It is a very personal decision.
Being asexual is a condition that has emerged and comes slowly to the world. Surely, it has existed for hundreds of years, but cultural impositions kept it silent . No person should be ashamed of their sexual orientation. You just have to express what it feels like to be able to fully enjoy yourself. The environment adapts before or after, but ends in understanding and acceptance.